How to Support Yourself Emotionally While Trying Again
Trying to conceive after a pregnancy loss or fertility challenge brings a whirlwind of emotions—hope, fear, grief, longing, and uncertainty. You may find yourself caught between excitement about the future and pain from the past. This mix of emotions is completely normal, and it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. It means you’re human—and healing.
At Southlake Therapy Group, we understand that trying again isn’t just a physical journey—it’s an emotional one. Here's how you can care for your heart while navigating the ups and downs of trying to conceive again.
Let Yourself Feel Everything
Grief and hope often show up side by side. You might feel sadness about what you lost while still holding space for hope. Or maybe joy creeps in and is quickly followed by guilt. These emotions can feel confusing, but they’re valid.
Trying again doesn’t mean forgetting or replacing what was lost. It means you’re choosing courage. Let yourself feel it all—without judgment. Your emotions are not a sign of weakness. They’re a sign that you’re connected to something deeply meaningful.
Protect Your Peace
It’s okay to be selective about what you consume. Pregnancy announcements, baby showers, or well-meaning questions can sometimes feel like emotional landmines. Give yourself permission to take space from conversations or social media posts that trigger pain or comparison.
You can also set gentle boundaries with loved ones. It’s perfectly okay to say:
“I appreciate your support, but I’m focusing on my mental health right now and need space from pregnancy talk.”
Boundaries aren’t about shutting people out—they’re about honoring your healing.
Talk About It With Someone Safe
Trying again can feel isolating, especially when others don’t understand the emotional weight you're carrying. Sharing your experience—whether with a therapist, support group, or trusted friend—can bring tremendous relief.
Therapy offers a safe space to process grief, navigate fear of recurrence, and explore the complicated feelings that arise. You don’t have to carry it all alone. Speaking your truth can lighten the emotional load and help you feel more grounded as you move forward.
Create Small Moments of Care
When everything feels out of your control, focusing on small, intentional moments can be grounding. Gentle self-care doesn’t have to be elaborate to be effective. You might try:
Taking deep breaths when anxiety rises
Writing a letter to your future child
Going on quiet walks without your phone
Journaling your feelings—no filter, no rules
Listening to calming music or meditations
Repeating affirmations like: “I am doing the best I can, and that is enough.”
These rituals remind your nervous system that you're safe, loved, and not alone.
Prepare for What a New Pregnancy Might Bring
If you become pregnant again, it’s common for excitement to be accompanied by fear. You may find yourself constantly checking for symptoms or bracing for bad news. This response doesn’t mean you aren’t grateful—it means you’ve been through something painful.
Therapy during a subsequent pregnancy can offer a supportive space to process anxiety, stay present, and honor the uniqueness of this new experience. Every pregnancy is different, and every part of your emotional response matters.
You’re Allowed to Heal at Your Own Pace
There’s no timeline for “moving on.” You don’t need to wait until you’ve fully healed to try again—and trying again doesn’t mean you’re fully healed. Healing isn’t linear. Some days will feel lighter. Some will feel heavy. All of it is part of the process.
Your story isn’t over. And you don’t have to walk this path alone.
We’re Here for You
At Southlake Therapy Group, we support individuals and couples navigating the emotional impact of miscarriage, fertility struggles, and the decision to try again. Whether you're processing past loss or preparing for what's next, we’re here to walk alongside you with compassion and care.
If you’re looking for therapy in Southlake, Texas, or anywhere in the state via telehealth, reach out today to schedule a consultation.
You deserve support as you write this next chapter.
